The Master’s Garden
An Allegory of Abiding in the Vine
In the Gospel of John, Jesus tells us that He is the Vine and His Father is the Gardener. He explains that His followers are the branches and need to remain in the Vine and bear much fruit. What did Jesus mean by that?
Enter into the fantasy world of Plantasia™ where plants come alive!
See what happens when a spindly rose, who yearns to be more than she is, meets the Master Gardener. Listen in on the conversations she has with the Gardener, Mighty Oak, Ginni (the Obedient Plant), and Mr. Bugleweed. Learn with her as she discovers the secrets of how to abide in the Vine and experience true riches.
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On My Father’s Lap
Drawing Near to Your Father in Heaven
By Rose Noland©
Abba Father? Heavenly Daddy? If that’s a foreign concept to you, join the club. If you never felt loved by your earthly father, it can be hard to picture God in this way.
But God is not like a human father, not even like the good ones!
In this book Rose will teach you step by step how to draw near to Father God. Her use of stories and the analogy of a little girl on her father’s lap will entice you to learn and do what is necessary to achieve intimacy with a Most Holy God. You too can know that you are His precious and cherished daughter.
Even if you never had a parent to whom you could run as a child, you have a heavenly Daddy inviting you to do so now. This book helps you become that little girl who can run to her Father’s lap whenever she needs—even as an adult.
God is not a distant Being—Someone big “up there, somewhere”—unreachable. No! He wants to be known up close and personal. He’s inviting you into His presence. Say yes!
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This book captivates you from the beginning and keeps your attention until the end. I wanted more of the warm feeling I was having as I was reading. ~D.R.
Based on a good study of Scripture on the topic, this book tackled faulty concepts of God (who is our good Father), how to begin a liberating relationship with Him based on what Christ did for us on the cross, how we unwittingly construct obstacles to a close connection with Him, repentance that gives hope, spiritual intimacy with Him through creative worship and more. It’s an easy read, but will dare you to change…for the better! ~Brenda Pamentor- Women’s Ministry Coordinator, Independent Bible Church, WV.
I’m on the third chapter and already I have a better understanding of what it really means to have a closer relationship with the Lord! ~J.E.
After reading her book, On My Father’s Lap: Drawing Near to Your Father in Heaven, I was inspired to reinstate a daily quiet time with my Father. ~E.M.
I had the privilege to study this book in a Bible study class at our church. What an inspiration and a blessing! It is small but powerful! It helped me to draw closer to God by thinking of Him as a loving, caring father figure instead of an untouchable, unapproachable entity. It has given me a feeling of peace as I have felt Him gently taking me into His arms to wrap me in comfort with unconditional love and acceptance. I would highly recommend this inspirational book to anyone—male or female, young or old. ~Sandy
What a great book! Rose has demonstrated through her personal stories as well as scripture that God is our loving Father who desires a close vibrant loving relationship with His children. He refers to us as His treasure and desires to be the apple of our eye! I never feel more loved than when I climb up on His lap and receive unconditional love, comfort, protection, and forgiveness. This book is a must read! ~Carie a.k.a. Lucy
This book made me cry a lot because of what I “felt” I needed from my earthly dad and did not receive. It also helped me to rejoice in my relationship with my Heavenly Father and that He can fill the voids in my life and in my heart. To look to Him for that love and relationship. I would recommend this book for anyone hurting from or struggling with a relationship with their dad. It is an easy read, but pulls on your heart strings.~DeeDee
For those who have trouble reading long books, this e-book is short and sweet and to the point…. I love Rose’s openness and vulnerability to reveal her journey along the way to having a personal relationship with Father God…. We all want to be loved and feel cherished. Our Lord wants to show us, but maybe you don’t know how or what to do. This book can get you started. ~Terry Rice
This book is God-inspired! I loved it! I want to give it to each one of my kids. ~Shiny Nedungadi
A father takes his daughter, Abby, to the park. Walking hand in hand, they enjoy each other. The father listens, smiling, as Abby chatters away about this and that, including asking for ice cream on the way home.
Eventually, she spots her favorite place in the park as they approach. “Swings, Daddy! Can we, can we?”
“Sure!” he says. He pushes her until the squeals of delight subside and his aching arms could shove no more. Still full of energy, she asks as she dismounts, “Can I go play in the sandbox?”
“Certainly,” replies the dad.
He sits on a bench as she scampers over, never taking his watchful eye off his little darling.
Shortly thereafter an older boy approaches and tells her to get out. Abby tries to ignore him, but he keeps taunting her. The father doesn’t intervene, but observes intently to see what his daughter will do. This has happened before and he’s been trying to teach her how to stand up for herself; not to let fear overcome her. The bully then pushes her down.
“Daddy, daddy!” the little girl wails, as she runs to her father. “That bully over there just pushed me down! My knee hurts!”
Lovingly the father gathers her into his arms and comforts her, tends to her knee, and sees that it’s only a scratch. “It’ll be ok, sweet thing.” He wipes her tears. “Hey, let’s go get that ice cream.”
And they happily walked away together.
Children run into a loving parent’s lap. There they find comfort, reassurance, and love. A good parent loves unconditionally, protects, provides, guides, comforts, reassures, and even disciplines. He always has the child’s best welfare in mind and acts accordingly. That’s our God. God wants us to run to Him. He wants to be seen and treated as our heavenly Father.
The father/child bond is probably the most accurate picture of God’s relationship with His people. The Bible frequently refers to God as our Father and to us as His children (Ps 68:5, Is 64:8, Jn 1:12, Mt 6:9).
“I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters,” says the Lord Almighty. (2 Cor 6:18)
It’s a word picture all of us can understand. Even if you are not a parent, you had parents. If you are one, you naturally want to love and nurture your children.
“Father” is the way Jesus taught His disciples to address God in prayer (Lk 11:2) and is the term He used as well. There is an even a more intimate phrase utilized three times in the New Testament, AbbaFather. Jesus used it during His agony in the garden of Gethsemane. (Mk 14:36, Rom 8:15, Gal 4:6)
To think that we have been given the right to call our Creator God “Father” is amazing!
…To all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God (Jn 1:11-12).
This phrase AbbaFather is a “term of tender endearment by a beloved child.” It means to call upon God in the language of affection and endearing confidence. We could easily translate it as daddy….
God is Not Like a Human Father
This concept of God as our Father is a totally foreign one because of the sad fact that many of us didn’t have a good father. That was me. I will discuss this further as we go along, but know now that God is not like humans. We are made in His image, not the other way around. When sin entered the world it distorted everything, including relationships. So please keep an open mind if you didn’t have a good father. Clarity will come to you as we delve further into the Scriptures and dig up the real truths about God as our Father.
Even if you never had a parent to whom you could run as a child, you have a heavenly Daddy inviting you to do so now. What a comforting word picture this has been for me! My desire is to help you become that little girl who can run to her Father’s lap whenever you need—even as an adult.
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OUR KNOWABLE GOD
Learning How to Relate to Our Invisible Lord
By Rose Noland©
Our relationship with our invisible God doesn’t have to be distant; we can attain intimacy with Him by applying the principles that characterize healthy human relationships to our relationship with God.
Our Knowable God discusses the wonderful truth that God wants to be known intimately. It begins with some basics about relationships and the importance of having the proper mindset in approaching our holy God. Relationships are two-sided; both parties must do their part for mutual benefit. Key relational components such as spending time together, communication, respect, acceptance, faithfulness, forgiveness, and love are biblically examined in how God fulfills His role in relating with us; and what our role should be in relating to Him.
Rose relates many personal stories describing her journey in relating with her Savior; the mistakes as well as the successes. She is very open and transparent, meeting her readers at their level.
The purpose of this book is to help everyone who desires closeness with their Creator to achieve intimacy with Him. The intimacy spoken of in this book is not based on feelings, but on the truth of the Word of God. The truths revealed in Scripture about relating with God are exciting! Realities like: God delights in us, we work together with God not just for Him, He wants to confide in us, as well as we in Him—are just a few of the surprises within these pages.
The principles and attitudes necessary to connect with our Maker are clearly explained. Many practical tips are given as well as thought-provoking questions at the end of each chapter for further application. The book contains charts, diagrams, appendices, and many biblical references for current or future in-depth study. However, even someone unfamiliar with the Bible can easily read this book because the necessary scriptural verses are contained within the text and is easy to understand. The material could be used repeatedly as one grows in their relationship with God.
Rose has written a tool that is needed in American churches today. While some authors give only their opinions about our relationship with God, Rose makes sure that all she’s written is rooted in the Word of God. This is a careful handling of God’s character and how we ought to relate to Him.
~Pastor Marvin Patrick, Answers Community Church, Martinez, GA
Enthusiastic and Wise
This book is one of the best-researched books I have read. Mrs. Noland doesn’t just tell you about knowing God, she shows you through numerous scripture verses and compelling illustrations. She thoroughly answers the question “How can I relate to someone I can’t see?”
Her enthusiasm is contagious, and her frequent exclamation points make it feel more like a conversation than a scholarly study. However, this work makes an excellent Bible study resource–the appendices give many references for people to use to discover particular aspects of God and their relationship with Him. Well worth the read! ~Heather B.
Wasn’t sure what this book was all about but once I cracked it open and started reading it opened my eyes to what was missing in my relationship with this God who saved me. It is well written and researched and worth a look see. ~C.C.
A Must Have
This book is an excellent read for anyone wanting to grow in their intimacy with the Lord. A wonderful combination of personal experience, application and solid biblical wisdom. It will continue to bless and edify you each time you read it.~Lora Rodriguez
A Book I Can Use Every Day
I love this book. It gives practical ways to help further our walk with Christ. Rose has written with clarity and encouragement. Great insights! ~Pam G.
A Must Read
I have had the privilege of being mentored through this book by Rose. It has helped me to put God in the proper perspective but at the same time shown me how I can have an intimate relationship with Him. Her personal stories and word pictures really help the reader to grasp difficult concepts. She offers very practical ways for relating to God. Rose’s faith is genuine and her desire for everyone to have a vibrant relationship with God is sincere. Due to her openness and relaxed writing style, as well as the useful applications you will feel she is personally mentoring you too. This book is firmly grounded in scripture and has many charts and ideas to continue your growth in the knowledge of God long after you have finished the book. Very well done. ~J.S.
I have had the joy of shepherding Rose and watching her grow over the years. I also have watched her experience the loss of her best earthly friend, her husband Ed. This book is some of the journey that I have been able to observe personally. I believe that you will be blessed to pick this book up and digest it carefully. It is not just words, but a life that has lived it. Read and be blessed. ~Pastor Wally Webster, Mount Airy Bible Church
A Great Encouragement!
I would highly recommend this book to anyone yearning for a healthy, vibrant, loving, real and growing relationship with our Creator. Rose, makes it abundantly clear, through her Truth-filled pages, her practical advice, her conversational writing style and her genuine openness, how we can have that relationship.
I found something useful and inspiring in each and every chapter. I found myself going back to the book to revisit and study the helpful advice. I enjoyed it so much that I bought one for my sister.
Having the privilege of knowing Rose personally, I am completely at ease trusting her advice because I see her live this book out daily. I am thankful she took the time to share her experiences and wisdom, because it has encouraged me and I am sure it will encourage other readers, as well. ~Heather
Is it truly possible to have a close relationship with the Creator of the universe? YES! God wants us to know Him intimately, as He says repeatedly in the Scriptures. All through history God has pursued a relationship with mankind, both corporately and individually. Let me tell you the story of how God pursued me….
Meeting Jesus was only the beginning of my relationship with Him, not just an event. I floundered for six or seven years, trying to get to know this wonderful God who saved me, but He still seemed distant to me. He was just someone big and powerful up there—somewhere. I often had doubts about my salvation and thought perhaps I was just fooling myself about heaven and this God who says He loves me. But God knew my doubts….
Now, that’s my story, but anyone can have an intimate relationship with God…. Ordinary people from all walks of life…can have a deep, vibrant relationship with the God of the universe!
This book is about helping you accomplish just that. It is about how my God drew me to Himself; and what I’ve learned from the Master Teacher about how to connect with Him…. My prayer is that this book will guide you as you endeavor to discover the truths about God for yourself, and stimulate your mind to deeply ponder the vastness of our magnificent God and the way to bond with Him.
I’ve also written this book because there are many people who don’t even know what comprises a good relationship…. Many folks… haven’t got a clue what makes a good relationship, let alone thinking that they could have one.
I pray that you will accept His invitation to not only enter the most beautiful love relationship possible, but also to develop and nurture it into a vibrant growing oneness with God.
RELATING TO A SPIRITUAL BEING
God is a being, not a force or thing. He made us in His image and for relationship—relationship with Himself and with others (Gen 1:26; Gen 2:18). But how in the world—a physical, tangible one— do we relate to Someone we cannot see, hear, or touch? Well, since we live in this physical world, why not look at what a relationship entails with someone that we can see, hear, and touch? That is, human relationships. Even Jesus Himself depicted our relationship with God in human ways: a father with his child, a teacher with his student, a master with his servant, and a bride and groom….
EACH HUMAN RELATIONSHIP IS UNIQUE
Each of us will relate to God in a unique fashion. Our personalities, abilities, passions, needs, experiences, and circumstances are all different. Therefore, despite the basic similarities, we each bring something unique to a relationship….
I can’t help but wonder if God created us each uniquely so that He would derive a special pleasure from each of His children. Consider a collector of paintings. No two paintings are alike. Each one is special and brings a different delight to the viewer. Now imagine that the collector is also the painter, who is masterfully and meticulously perfecting each piece of art. That’s our God! I take great comfort in knowing that I am special to Him. I have struggled greatly most of my life with a poor self-image…. I thank my God often that He taught me that although I may not be worthy, I am not worthless!
Desiring a growing relationship with God is only the first step in developing one. A good relationship is not automatic…. One has to be purposeful in developing, maintaining, and improving relationships.…
Now God not only wants a relationship with us, but He wants one that is growing and vibrant. And just as God took the first step in pursuing us (Jn 6:44), He also continues to pursue us in the relationship. However, as in human relationships, one can only go so far without the other’s response; it will either move toward a closer relationship or away from one. In the same way, God doesn’t force us to walk closely with Him, but He will bring circumstances and people into our lives to woo us to Himself….
So are you willing to seek after Him? If you are, get ready, because He promises you will find Him (Jer 29:13-14)!
COMMUNICATING WITH EACH OTHER
How can we listen and hear God since He doesn’t speak audibly to us? To begin, we need to ask ourselves the question, “Are we really listening or are we like the nation of Israel?”
“You have seen many things, but have paid no attention; your ears are open, but you hear nothing.” (Is 42:20)
Is the extent of our communication with God telling Him what we want and then expecting Him to immediately answer “yes” and in a way that is blatantly obvious? Sometimes God does answer quickly and obviously, but not always. Why? Because He isn’t our cosmic genie waiting to grant our every desire! He is like a good father who doesn’t spoil his children with everything they want, but gives them only what is beneficial. God wants to be in relationship with us, not to be our vending machine.
You may be wondering whether it is really possible to hear His “voice.” The answer is yes. As mentioned under God’s part on speaking, our Lord does communicate with His people and He does so clearly. So what’s the problem then? If God hears my prayer, then why doesn’t He answer? I believe much of the problem lies in the following things:
- Our lack of understanding about how God speaks–through His Word, prayer, His people (the church), and circumstances
- The inability to recognize His voice and to distinguish it from our own, the world, or Satan
- Unconfessed sin and living in disobedience (Ps 66:18; Zec 7:13)
- Asking with an improper attitude towards our holy God (prideful) (Is 66:2-4)
- Asking with wrong motives (Jas 4:3)
- Having wrong expectations
Jesus tells us in John 10:1-16 that His sheep do recognize His voice and they follow Him. So then, it is a matter of learning how to listen and to do so with the right heart attitude.
HOW TO LISTEN AND RECOGNIZE GOD’S VOICE
First I must say that recognizing God’s voice has been a longing in my heart for a very long time. I also have to say I have not arrived, but I have come a long way. What I have learned is that it takes diligence and a great desire, but it is invariably worth the effort. Effective communications with humans is difficult—just ask husbands if they understand their wives—how much more so with our transcendent God? Just as in relationships with people, there is no coasting….
Copyright © 2012 Rose Noland/He’s So Worth It Ministries. All rights reserved.
FROM THE VERTICAL TO THE HORIZONTAL
Empowered to Relate to People God’s Way
By Rose Noland©
Developing and maintaining good relationships is difficult in this world, but with the enabling of God, we can succeed! The principles in this book will give you a biblical perspective on how to interact with people God’s way. We cannot correctly relate to others without the empowerment of God, and we must be rightly related to Him through Jesus Christ. As we continually abide in Him, we will see God enable us to love, and relate to, those around us. With God as our provider and our satisfaction, our contented soul can selflessly reach out to others. We can learn how to deal with the pain of challenging relationships. We can be successful in dealing with people and have deeper, more meaningful interactions. The key is to understand that the better our vertical relationship is with God, the better our horizontal relationships with others will be. Through Him we can love the unlovable, forgive the unforgiveable, forbear with difficult people, and enjoy life to the fullest!
In these pages you will read about the author’s struggles and the ways in which God gave her victory. You, too, can learn how to deal with the pain of challenging relationships. You can be successful in dealing with people and have deeper, more meaningful interactions.
In a time when our culture, and even professional counselors, keep getting it wrong, Rose has captured the biblical essence of having fulfilling relationships—rightly relate to God so you can rightly relate to others. Each chapter gives keen insights into why we don’t do well in relationships. If you can’t get a grip on why you may be struggling, this book is a must read.~Pastor Marvin Patrick, Answers Community Church Martinez, GA
This is a wonderful book about building and/or restoring relationships with others from a biblical perspective. Rose loves the Lord and seeks His guidance and that comes through on the pages of this book as she shares personal experiences to help illustrate the concepts being taught. She explains concepts in a way that makes them easy to apply to life and has a wonderful way of writing that is easy to follow and understand. This book has been a huge blessing to me in helping me restore and strengthen relationships, including my relationship with God. I had the pleasure of working through this book in a group Bible study, but it is also very suitable for individual study. ~Suzanne
This book will tell you how you can have a close relationship with God. It will also show you how you can have a better relationship with others because of your relationship with God. Some of the topics Rose discusses are: respect, attitudes, communication, transparency, acceptance, understanding, encouragement, forgiveness, faithfulness, and love. There are questions for you to work through at the end of each chapter to help you get the most out of it. If you apply what Rose teaches, there will be a change in your relationships for the better. This is an in-depth book that will make you think, and you will yearn for a close relationship with God! ~Carolyn
This is an excellent book for anyone who desires to learn how to have better relationships. Rose shares many insights on the how and why of relational difficulties, as well as how to resolve them and live more harmoniously. She stresses throughout that in order to have successful and fulfilling relationships with others, we must first learn how to rightly relate to God. This is a great follow up to Rose’s first book, “Our Knowable God”. I’m looking forward to Rose’s next book. ~Susan A.
FIRST THINGS FIRST
…There’s a lot in this book about developing basic people skills. However, as important as they are in relating to people, they are not enough. We need God’s wisdom, power, strength, grace, and love to relate to others in the way God asks. Let’s get real. Many, if not most, people are hard to deal with. We are all selfish, born with that inherited sinful nature from Adam and Eve. The only way we can have meaningful relationships with others and to fulfill the second greatest commandment of loving others is to be inextricably connected to our Lord. We must have a love relationship with Him before we can truly love others with a godly love. Please don’t misunderstand me. I am not saying our relationship with God has to be perfect before we start fulfilling the second commandment. What I mean is that we must first have a relationship with God through faith in Jesus. He is the One who loves other people through us. It is supernatural. It is His divine power that enables us to love the unlovely. It is only through His divine power that we can love as He loves. This truth is the premise of this whole book, so you will see it frequently throughout these chapters, so let me take a bit of time to explain….
At the moment we accept Jesus as our Savior, He gives us a new godly nature (2 Cor 5:17). That new nature is what gives us the capability of living a godly life, of loving God and others (see 2 Pet 1:3-4). Once saved, we have the ability to relate to others as Jesus did. This is an exciting and vital truth to understand. As the divine nature within us grows through the sanctifying power of the Holy Spirit, so will our knowledge of how to relate to others. We already have everything we need to relate to God and others at the time of our rebirth in the proper way. Therefore, it is a matter of learning how to appropriate it, to make it real in our everyday lives. There is no other way to love as God commands (first and second greatest commandments)…. We need Jesus not only to save us from hell, but to live a holy life. God is not asking us to follow His commands in our own strength, but in His strength. He is asking us to let Him do it through us: from the vertical to the horizontal.
In fact, we already have a picture of this concept beautifully illustrated in the cross: the vertical beam represents our relationship with God; the horizontal beam represents our relationships with people. This cross analogy gives us four important truths in regard to relationships:
- Christ’s redemptive work on the cross is what makes it possible to have a relationship with God and godly relationships with people.
- When our vertical bond is firm and secure, our horizontal interactions also have stability. Without the vertical beam of the cross securely positioned in the ground, the horizontal beam has nowhere to go—except fall to the ground. Therefore, right relationships with others can only happen when we are in a right relationship with God. If we’re off in our relationship with God, our interactions with people will be affected, and vice versa. The closer we are to God the better able we will be to relate to others.
- We are to remain at the foot of the cross indicating the humility we are to have before our God and others (Rom 12:3; Phil 2:3-4).
- The cross represents a picture of what we should do—die to self (Rom 12:1-2; Col 3:1-3). Loving and relating properly with God and others will sometime require a sacrifice of our wants and needs. Although this is difficult, the rewards far outweigh the cost. Think of it this way: it is our new Christ-like nature that is (or should be) doing the relating. Our sinful nature cannot relate to God or others rightly (God’s way). We need God’s power and wisdom. And the only way to get that is by surrendering ourselves to God.
FORGIVING EACH OTHER
Forgiveness, what a critical topic! It is the crux of the matter—literally. Without forgiveness there is no relationship possible with God and no truly close relationships with people. Many are not even aware they are harboring unforgiveness in their hearts, and those that do just can’t seem to forgive the wrongs done against them. Unforgiveness has permeated our society. Why? Because forgiving is hard to do. Therefore, it’s a message that needs to be repeated even though many authors have thoroughly written on this subject. We always have to deal with offenses in this fallen world. If this is an area in which you have already had significant victory, then view this chapter as a good review. If not, maybe it will encourage you to apply these freeing truths to your life. Or perhaps this will indeed be a fresh look for you at what forgiveness God’s way looks like. Personally, I need reminding of these truths for I am always falling short in some way. They are principles we will use day in and day out—that is, until we’re in heaven where no more wrongs will be committed against us or by us.
REASONS TO FORGIVE
Aside from being so hard, there are several reasons we don’t forgive. For one, there’s a lot of misunderstanding about what forgiveness is and isn’t. Secondly, many people think it’s not possible to forgive certain atrocities, nor are they expected to do so. In a lot of cases though, people are simply unwilling. Providentially, there are a lot of good reasons to forgive.
- God commands it.
Not forgiving someone is a sin. This is the first thing we must understand and accept. God is God. What He says goes. If for no other reason, we should forgive because our obedience is His just due.
- Unforgiveness destroys relational intimacy with God.
Since unforgiveness is a sin, it breaks our fellowship with God. This is the biggest incentive I have to obey God in this area. I have experienced the sweetness of His presence and don’t want anything to stop or prevent that.
- Unforgiveness destroys relational intimacy with others.
When we love someone, we want to be in harmony with them. When a wrong (big or little) is done by either party, it immediately places a strain on the relationship. There is a sense of uneasiness, a lack of peace and rest. When Ed and I were at odds with each other I was miserable until the matter was addressed….
- Unforgiveness prevents relational intimacy.
Holding something against someone hardens our hearts….
- Unforgiveness leads to resentment and bitterness.
This is a biggie! It is a proven fact that bitterness causes emotional and physical health problems. Unforgiving people don’t realize that it doesn’t accomplish what they want—to payback or inflict pain on their offender. It only continues to cause them more pain, as well as those around them.
- Unforgiveness is a stumbling block to further spiritual growth….
On the positive side:
- Forgiveness restores peace and joy in our hearts.
- Forgiveness brings healing into the life of the offended and possibly the offender….
- Forgiveness increases our fellowship with Christ….
- Forgiveness brings great glory to God and furthers His Kingdom.
Forgiving the unforgivable demonstrates the power and love of Christ. Only a very hard heart is not affected by this kind of forgiveness. It could lead someone to Christ in salvation or a backslidden Christian to return to living rightly. It is also a great encouragement and model to all believers.
So when you find yourself in a place where you just can’t seem to forgive, then turn the word forgive around: give for Jesus’ sake.
- Forgiveness frees us from bondage so we can live the abundant life.
Forgiveness releases us from negative emotions that control our lives. Subsequently, we’ll be able to live with increased peace, joy, and fulfillment.
I tried it my way and I was miserable. As I learned how to forgive, what freedom and peace it brought to my soul! Harboring unforgiveness just isn’t worth it!
…HOW TO FORGIVE
We’ve looked so far at the reasons we should forgive and some of the essential truths surrounding it. Now we move on to the manner. First, consider that “forgiveness is not a method to be learned as much as a truth to be lived.”
From the Vertical to the Horizontal
The only way we can forgive is because God first forgave us. If you have not accepted the forgiveness of God through Jesus Christ, you cannot forgive in the manner God desires. You cannot give what you do not have. True forgiveness can only come at the foot of the cross. You must put the old nature where it belongs—on the cross crucified with Christ. Your new self, divinely empowered, is the one who is able to forgive—even the “unforgivable.”
Think this through with me. The old sin nature has been made ineffective at your rebirth (remember our discussion in chapter one). Picture that sin nature as dead (Rom 6:11). A dead man cannot retaliate, nor can he forgive. But your new self is like Christ who didn’t retaliate. Instead, He entrusted Himself to the Father and forgave. Therefore, you can forgive like Jesus through the power of the Father. Also consider that a dead man cannot hold on to anything, including unforgiveness, resentment, and bitterness. Neither can the divine nature within you hold onto these sinful attitudes because it goes against its nature. You choose whether you will live like a dead person or like Christ.
Get the Right View about Offenses….
Don’t Assume the Worst….
Remember and Apply the Essential Truths about Forgiveness
Knowing the truths mentioned above is only the first step. They are not beneficial unless you apply them….
Copyright © 2014 Rose Noland/He’s So Worth It Ministries. All rights reserved.