7 Tips to Help You Refocus During a Meltdown

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There you are, feeling like someone pushed you out of the plane without a parachute—freefalling again! You simply cannot stop thinking about this all-consuming issue. What do you do? Worry, fret, or pray? We are told to pray in times like these (Phil 4:6-7). But is that all we can do during meltdown moments?

As I mentioned last week I’m smack in the middle of a major situation with so many uncertainties. A few days ago I had a meltdown. A tiny and unrelated issue caused me to totally lose it! 

Any of you been there? Or am I the only yo-yo around?

But I don’t want to fail my Lord and succumb to worrying and complaining! I want to be more a woman of faith than I was the last time. But how?!

In His kindness, my Lord reminded me of 7 practical things besides prayer to help me refocus on Him and not the issue. I have used these with great success including with this trial. I am sure they will help you as well.

1. Praise God

Sing or play music that lifts your spirit, especially worship songs.

2. Make a gratitude list

Include what you’re grateful for in the current situation. E.g. “I am so thankful You are faithful and will catch me!”

3. Read and Speak God’s Word

If you have a hard time focusing on what you are reading, try reading out loud or a different passage. One in which the Lord has comforted you in the past. Psalms are a great place to start.

4. Do something productive

This is the one I used when I had my recent meltdown. First I cried to the Lord. Then I thought, “What is on my to-do list so I can at least be a little more productive than having a full-blown pity party?” I needed something that required a certain degree of concentration, but not a lot.

So that’s what I did along with putting on some of my favorite praise music. It worked wonders!  

Your project could be an enjoyable hobby, tending to the needs of your family—making a meal, cleaning, making a shopping list….

5. Engage in physical activity

Take a walk. Work in the garden. Go to the gym. Make yourself get up and do something. Exercise has been scientifically proven to help with runaway emotions.

6. Talk it out with a godly person

Not to dump and complain, but for assistance in finding solutions and enlisting their prayers.

7. Do something with or for others

You’ll be surprised how well this one works! Write a note, call a friend, pray for someone in dire need (See Is 58:9-11).


Obviously you can do these in combination and by all means, pray during it.

The key is to switch your focus off of the problem unto something that pleases God. It is a choice that you can make with God’s enabling grace.

Therefore, my friends, when a major problem comes your way, think about it with God. Do what you can to find solutions. But if you have to wait for answers (like 99% of the time) and are having a meltdown, go do something productive and pleasing to the Lord—then watch your anxiety slip away!

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.  (Phil 4:8)


Scripture taken from The Holy Bible: New International Version®. NIV. ® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved.

Help For Us Emotional Yoyos: 7 Keys to Victory

Are you an emotional yoyo? Last time I admitted I was. What are we to do?! Is there any hope for us? YES!

About 10+ years ago I wanted desperately to change, but I didn’t know where to go. There’s a lot of psychobabble and false teaching out there. Who and what am I to believe? I was afraid to put wrong information into an already messed up mind. Guess where God led me. His Word!

I want to pass these freeing discoveries on to you.

I began last time with how I deal with my emotional tendencies. I’d like to give you a few more “secrets.” The first two are a recap.

1. Admit, accept and submit your tendencies for God’s purposes.

2. Let truth lead instead of your emotions.

3. Understand what emotions are.

  • Always follow thought; only responders.
  • Have no intellect; not rational
  • Cannot tell the difference between past and present, i.e. memory can trigger past-felt emotions.

4. Understand what emotions are not.

  • Not the truth; unreliable source of information even though they are real.
  • Not a guide to make decisions or to determine God’s will; feelings often cloud our judgement.

We must be careful not to mistake our feelings for the Holy Spirit’s leading. Unfortunately, I have done this and have suffered the consequences. Spare yourself needless pain and let God lead you—not your feelings!

  • Not a sin

It isn’t wrong to feel sad or discouraged. This was a huge piece of the puzzle for me. I used to believe that if I didn’t always have the joy of the Lord I was sinning. That just made me feel worse! Jesus wept; agonized in the garden. And we know He didn’t sin! So how do we reconcile these two seemingly contradicting truths?

It’s what we do with those emotions that count.

  • Not an excuse to sin.

Sorry, “I just couldn’t help it!” mentality won’t cut it with God!

5. Emotions are only one facet of our being.

“Man is like a diamond with its many facets. Those facets are not separate entities, yet they reflect various aspects of the whole.  They may serve similar or overlapping functions, yet they are distinguishable.  They are not parts; they are aspects, facets, faces of the whole.”*

Aspects include soul, spirit, heart, conscience, mind, flesh, and will.

6. There are many factors influencing our feelings.

Thoughts, past experiences, personality/temperament, and health are just a few of them. Some of these we can change; others we cannot.

We can look at these factors and work on the ones we can change. What we cannot change we can accept by humbling ourselves and surrendering it to the Lord. (=Key #1)

Most of us have seen this Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

7. Trust God to do His part.

God doesn’t want you to be controlled by your emotions; He wants to be Lord over your emotions. It is His will.

If you ask anything according to His will it’s a guarantee—only give Him time to work!

“…I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. .”  (Jn 16:23)


*Ryrie Basic Theology

Scripture taken from THE HOLY BIBLE: NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®.  NIV®.  Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica.  All rights reserved worldwide

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