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Help For Us Emotional Yoyos: 7 Keys to Effectively Manage Your Emotions

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Are you an emotional yoyo like me? Up and down in how you feel? Thinking you are destined to act in accordance with your mood?

What are we to do?! Is there no hope for us?

More than 10 years ago I became sick and tired of being dominated by my feelings, but I didn’t know how to change; didn’t know where to go for answers. There’s a lot of psychobabble and false teaching out there. I was afraid I would be putting more wrong information into an already messed up mind.

Knowing my desperation for change, the Lord led me to the best place to find answers in controlling your emotions: the bible. There I found true answers and I must pass these freeing discoveries on to you.

7 Keys to Effectively Manage Your Emotions

Last time I gave you the first two keys in dealing with your emotions the right way.

1. Admit, accept and submit your tendencies for God’s purposes.

2. Let truth lead instead of your emotions.

Here are 5 more keys to help you take control over your feelings.

3. Understand what emotions are.

  • Always follow thought; only responders.
  • Have no intellect; not rational
  • Cannot tell the difference between past and present, i.e. memory can trigger past-felt emotions.

4. Understand what emotions are not.

  • Not the truth; unreliable source of information
  • Not to be denied, but dealt with
  • Not a guide to make decisions or to determine God’s will; feelings often cloud our judgement.

We must be careful not to mistake our feelings for the Holy Spirit’s leading. Unfortunately, I have done this and have suffered the consequences.

Spare yourself needless pain and let God lead you—not your feelings!

  • Not a sin

It isn’t wrong to feel sad or discouraged. This was a huge piece of the puzzle for me. I used to believe that if I didn’t always have the joy of the Lord I was sinning. That just made me feel worse! Jesus wept; agonized in the garden. And we know He didn’t sin! So how do we reconcile these two seemingly contradicting truths?

It’s what we do with those emotions that count.

  • Not an excuse to sin.

Sorry, “I just couldn’t help it!” mentality doesn’t cut it with God!

5. Emotions are only one facet of our being.

“Man is like a diamond with its many facets. Those facets are not separate entities, yet they reflect various aspects of the whole.  They may serve similar or overlapping functions, yet they are distinguishable.  They are not parts; they are aspects, facets, faces of the whole.”*

Aspects include soul, spirit, heart, conscience, mind, flesh, and will.

6. There are many factors influencing our feelings.

Thoughts, past experiences, personality/temperament, and health are just a few of them. Some of these we can change; others we cannot.

We can look at these factors and work on the ones we can change. What we cannot change we can accept by humbling ourselves and surrendering it to the Lord. (=Key #1)

Most of us have seen this Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

Courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.

7. Trust God to do His part.

God doesn’t want you to be controlled by your emotions; He wants to be LORD over your emotions. In fact, you need His power.

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness….
(2 Pet 1:3)

So ask God to let Him manage your emotions. It is His will and desire. And if you ask anything according to His will, you will receive it (Jn 16:23)—only give Him time to work!

My friends, I’ve only touched the surface. But it is enough to get you started! Click to find more scriptures on managing emotions

To go even deeper, check out my Managing Emotions Seminar and Workshops.

 

*Ryrie Basic Theology

Scripture taken from THE HOLY BIBLE: NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®.  NIV®.  Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica.  All rights reserved worldwide

 

I’ll Always Be an Emotional YO-YO and How I Deal with It

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I have to face it! I’ll always be an emotional yo-yo—up and down in what I’m feeling. I want to stay high or at least even-keeled, happy, and always at peace. But that’s an unrealistic goal for me—at least in this fallen world. I must learn to deal with it.

Maybe some of you are like me? (Perhaps we should form our own Yo-yo’s Anonymous group!)

I don’t like being so easily moved by my feelings. Nevertheless, that is the way God created me, and my Maker doesn’t make mistakes. Understanding my makeup was my first step in dealing with it—God’s way. I used to see my emotionality as a curse. Now I am wiser; my perspective has changed. The reality:

 It is both a strength and a weakness.

I am passionate, enthusiastic, and motivated. I get a lot of things done. I love and feel deeply. I am sensitive. I experience great joys and excitement.

Yet I easily get discouraged, hurt, disappointed, and flustered. Impatience is one of my biggest enemies. Depression comes knocking often. “Scaredy cat” is my middle name.

I could use my makeup as an excuse; rationalizing away poor responses. I could have a big pity party when I fail and stay in a defeated pit, or become prideful with success. I could retreat into my shell when hurt. I could make joy my ultimate goal and repeatedly flop.

OR

I can admit, accept and submit my tendencies for God’s purposes.

I can’t change what I feel, but I can change what I do.

I can respond by letting truth lead me instead of my emotions.

Without an awareness or admission of my propensities, I remain unguarded; vulnerable to satanic attack. Satan used to have a field day with me. Now I am aware of his conniving schemes (2 Cor 2:11). I truly don’t have to let my emotions control me; making me sin and reducing my impact for God’s Kingdom!

But I cannot do this on my own! I need the power of God and gratefully it is available (2 Cor 10:4-5, 2 Pet 1:3-4).

Under God’s control these tendencies can be used for His glory; under my control, they result in “yo-yoness.”

I am learning how to better manage my emotional state. My highs are still high, occur more frequently and last longer. My lows are not as low (usually), happen less often, and are shorter—IF I choose to submit myself to God and abide in Him consistently.

I am definitely more emotionally stable now. I have had significant victory in Christ over my emotions. But to think it’ll ever come naturally for me—that’s a pipe dream. I will always have to put out major effort—even fight—so as to not be overwhelmed and consumed by my feelings. I will always be a yoyo. But that’s ok because God loves me just the way He made me.

What are your propensities? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Do some prayerful soul searching. You may not be an emotional yoyo, but be honest with who you are. Accept it and allow God to use your makeup for His glory. It is a much better way to live!

My friends, I originally published this blog in 2016. It’s content is so pertinent to the message of He’s So Worth It Ministries that I had to resurface it.

If you are an emotional person and have trouble in dealing with your feelings, may I encourage you to let me help you? I am going full force with offering emotions workshops and seminars. They have helped many women and I believe God wants me to help more of you. Please visit my How to Handle Your Emotions God’s Way page for more information.  

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