Are You Worrying? What If the Worst Thing DID Happen?

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It was the summer of 2014. I remember as if it were yesterday—scared out of my ever-living mind! My periodontist had sent me to a specialist, who then sent me to another specialist for a biopsy of my tongue. Panic gripped me. I had lost my wonderful husband to cancer!

So my mind started running amuck. What if it is cancer? What if I need chemotherapy? What if the worst-case scenario happens? To me that wouldn’t be death (since I would be with my Savior and re-united with my soul mate), but the loss of my mouth!

I am a teacher, discipler, and speaker—not to mention a gabber. How would I serve my God without the ability to speak? I know the truth that God’s grace will be there when I need it (but not beforehand). I know the fact that most of what we worry about never comes true, but what if it does? It is a possibility, after all. How do I handle it if the worst thing does happen?

That’s when the Lord taught me this secret:

I had to decide ahead of time how was I going to respond if the worst case scenario did indeed become a reality. 

As mentioned last time, when confronted with negative circumstances we can either have a temper tantrum or accept it and comply even if we don’t understand.

I could scream, stomp my foot, be angry at the doctors and God—be and remain miserable. Or I could accept God’s will and lean on His grace which He promised would be there to help me go through it.

The best choice is obvious, but I must admit it took me awhile to reach that place of compliance. (Maybe I’m not the only one who struggles here?)

Losing my ability to speak didn’t make sense. I was sure God was leading me to speak more—to use my gift of gab for Him. Was my service for the Lord over? It couldn’t be! So, I reasoned that if the worst thing happened, I could still speak by writing my words instead. That’s when I said to the Lord, “Ok, Lord. If that’s what You have ordained, so be it! Only help me!”

Once I determined that I would surrender and accept whatever the Lord has planned, peace came. Total peace.

Now I am not saying I never worried about my tongue situation again. Of course, I had moments of anxiety. But they were short-lived since I had already decided what I was going to do. Therefore, I didn’t have to live in that state of mind. And neither do you! We just need to follow through on our commitment.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. (Phil 4:6-8)


So my friends, what are you worried about? What is the worst possible thing that could happen in your situation? Go to the Father. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you reason it out, as you come to terms with it. Then decide ahead of time to accept whatever your sovereign Lord may allow, and how you could adapt to it—knowing in your heart that your faithful God will come through with His enabling grace to get you through it.

Cease striving and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.
(Ps 46:10 NASB)


P.S. All results were negative, but what a valuable lesson learned!


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10 Tips to Help You GIVE IT UP to God

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Is God asking you to do something that you just don’t want to do? Has He allowed a major difficulty in your life that you just can’t accept? You feel miserable. The issue is ever before you—always on your mind.

There’s a battle of the wills going on—yours versus God’s. That lack of peace and “where is God?” feeling is the Holy Spirit exerting pressure on you to submit to the better way—His.

Why is God’s way better? Because He knows it’s the only way you can:

  • Change and become more like Jesus.
  • Have true freedom and live the abundant life.
  • Resist the devil (Jas 4:7).
  • Produce eternal fruit for His Kingdom.
  • Experience deep intimacy with Him (1 Pet 5:5).

Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you. (Job 22:21)

God’s ways are always better because He is all-knowing, wise, good, loves us and has our best interest at heart. As Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth often quotes:

“If we knew what God knew we would want what He wants.”

Once you truly understand His character you won’t mind yielding as much.

Here are 10 tips to help you yield to His way

  1. Remember God is the One really in control.
  2. As a born-again believer, you are not your own but bought with the precious blood of Jesus Christ (1 Cor 6:20). You have relinquished your rights over to your Redeemer. But take heart—He’s a wonderful and kind Master!
  3. When it’s hard to submit do it as an act of sacrificial love. (Rom 12:1)
  4. Jesus was submissive to His Father.

During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with fervent cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. (Hebrews 5:7)

If we want our prayers to be heard, we too must have a reverent submission.

  1. Pray: “Lord, make me willing to be willing.” God will answer that prayer. I know because He has done so for me many times.
  2. Develop an eternal perspective. Don’t love the things of this world (1 Jn 2:15).

“Hold everything [even loved ones] in your hands lightly, otherwise it hurts when God pries your fingers open.”  ~Corrie ten Boom

  1. Understand your utter need of God.

When you know you can’t do anything worthwhile or right without the Lord…

It’ll be easier to concede when you know your desperate need.

  1. Cooperating with God = working together with God.

When you let God be the Driver of your life, He doesn’t throw you out of the car! You get to go along for the thrill ride of your life without crashing or going the wrong way!

  1. Surrender is not a 1-time event that happens when you decide to follow Jesus, but an attitude of humble submission admitting your need of God for salvation and everything else—even your very breath. It begins on your spiritual birthday and continues throughout your walk with Jesus.

“It’s a posture of living in relationship with God ready to hand everything and anything over to God. [It’s responding to those nudges/promptings of God.] It’s learning not to hesitate or hold back but move forward in obedience.”1 Or not move forward when God tells you to wait.

  1. Fighting against God is a losing battle! The sooner you surrender the less miserable you will be. Come to that place of acceptance. You won’t regret it—I promise; better yet He promises!

Be still [cease striving] and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations. I will be exalted in the earth.” (Ps 46:10)


1Margaret Feinberg

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Submission: A BEAUTIFUL Word

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Picture a colorful scarf blowing in the breeze. Its movements are one of grace and beauty. Just looking at it puts a smile on your face. Even after being blown about severely, it’s beauty remains, none the worse for wear.

Now take that same scarf and starch it. It still has beauty, although diminished. But when strong winds come, it becomes tattered, bent out of shape, and torn in spots. It has lost its appeal.

What’s the difference?


This scarf is an outward manifestation of our heart’s condition. If our hearts are pliable, then our lives will be beautiful to God and onlookers. Additionally, we will be usable for God’s purposes because we are flexible. The opposite is also true.

I used to get so bent out of shape with the slightest breeze of trouble or inconvenience. Hyper, readily flustered, impatient, super-sensitive and thus easily hurt described me to the T. I was not a happy camper or fun to be around. (How in the world did my husband ever put up with me?!)

Gratefully, after I got saved the Lord began to change me. He had His work cut out for Him, though (and still does). But He is the God of the impossible

More and more He is teaching me to relax and go with the flow—His flow; yielding to His will in everything.

This is a remarkably better way to live!

God can change anyone if they are willing. Just look at Peter—before and after the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. In Acts 12:1-7 we read Peter was arrested; awaiting trial before King Herod who had just killed James for his faith. There he was sleeping—deeply. The angel had to strike Peter to wake him up! That’s not how I would have reacted, nor Peter beforehand. But now he wasn’t worried; he had developed a quiet trust in God for his fate.

How does that type of drastic change come about?

It can only happen by a humble submission to God. We have to be willing to let God have His way with us; allowing Him to remove the junk from our minds and hearts.

“Be still, and know that I am God…I will be exalted in the earth.” (Ps 46:10)*

Be still in the original language means to cease striving; to stop fighting against God who is the One to be exalted on the earth and in our lives.

We need to develop a pliable heart.

If we want to come out un-shredded in the tumultuous winds of life, we must yield to God’s hands as He molds us into the likeness of His beautiful Son.

For most people submission is a dirty word. But I have found it to be a beautiful one!

Living a submitted relaxed life is beneficial not only for us but to those around us. Its beauty is attractive to a lost and empty world, and an encouragement to believers to live God’s way—the best way.

A surrendered life depicts lovely, graceful movement orchestrated by the grace of God.

But most importantly it is beautiful because it is so in His eyes. He looks upon a compliant heart with deep satisfaction as to what He has produced, and with joy as to what He can now do.

You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. (1 Peter 3:4)**


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