Surrender Part 2: 7 Reasons Why We Don’t Surrender and 7 Ways to Change

Stubborn child with arms crossed

“No! You can’t make me!” the child cried.

It’s true. God won’t make us surrender. He made us with a free will. However, our way simply doesn’t work. God knows that His way is best, and He doesn’t want us to miss out on all the great rewards or suffer the consequences of a disobedient life (see last blog and Deut 28).

Be assured He will work in your life to help you see that His way is the best. (Perhaps God will use this blog to help you do just that.) 

So why don’t we surrender and walk through the door that leads to the abundant life Jesus promised?

1. We simply don’t want to submit!

We’re stubborn and prideful. We don’t like giving up control. We want to be the ones in charge. “It’s my life, isn’t it?” Not if you’re saved and bought with the precious blood of Christ!

2. We’re afraid of what God might ask us to do

That it’ll be something we don’t want to do or think we can do. 

3. We’re in bondage to some sinful habit, and Satan is working hard to keep us there

4. We don’t trust God

We don’t believe His way is the best; we think we can do a better job than God.

5. It’s just too hard or don’t know how

Perhaps you tried before and failed.

6. We are unaware of the rewards awaiting us

7. We are unaware of what’s at stake

So how can we change and become more willing?

1. Know the One to whom you are surrendering

This is the biggest key in submitting to God. You are yielding to a good, powerful, loving, and all-wise God—not to a bunch of rules and regulations or to a mean selfish God.

2. Accept your position in relation to God

God is sovereign (i.e. in control) already! He is the Creator and Author of all things. Not you. God is worthy of your submission.

3. Choose to by an act of your will

Just do it! Do it to demonstrate sacrificial love to your Savior. In light of all that He has done for you it is a “rational (logical, intelligent) act of worship” (Rom 12:1 AMP).

4. Step out in faith

“Once I came to that point of surrender, God began to ignite faith in my heart–faith that He would enable me to do whatever He called me to do, in spite of my personal limitations and inadequacies.”1

5. Pray and ask God to help you

Ask God to change your heart.

Years ago when I became my mom’s caregiver I saw a time coming where she would need full-time care and I was afraid that would be me. But oh, I was not willing! And I hoped God would never ask me to do such a sacrificial thing!

Then I heard on Christian radio that in times like these we should pray, “Lord, make me willing to be willing.” So I prayed and it worked! When the time came to take my mom in to live with us, I was willing. I was able to surrender to God’s will because He had changed my heart to align with His.

6. Plug into a support system 

We need other believers to keep our commitment to the Lord when discouraged.

7. Abide in Christ, the Vine

If you stay connected to your life Source, you will have everything you need to live a godly life, which certainly includes living a yielded one. (2 Pet 1:3)

Until next time, my friends, as you work toward surrendering your will to your faithful Lord, you will see

It really is the better best choice!

…Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Rom 12:2)

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This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Ricky

    By the way, what if I am older than 50 years old. No articles talk about old people surrendering to God. How does it work for old people whose life is ruin and broke?

    1. My heart goes out to you Ricky. Sounds like you’ve been through a lot of heartache in your life. However, all of us, in this fallen world, will have tribulation. But Like Jesus said in Jn 16:33, “but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”
      Troubles are a result of sin, not from God. He sent Jesus to die on the cross for our sins and rose again, thereby giving us the free gift of eternal life. If you are born again, then you have the capability of being an overcomer. I am 70 years old. These truths from God’s Word work IF WE APPLY THEM, no matter if you’re young or old. I lost my soulmate at 58 years of age.
      My audience isn’t only to us older folks and so I do not have any articles solely addressing 50+-year-olds.
      My advice to you, Ricky is to focus on understanding WHO you are submitting to (Ways to change #1) and pray and ask God to change your heart (#5). Pray, “Lord, make me willing to be willing.” AND HE WILL!
      P.S. I hope you will check out the other posts and free resources to help you in your walk with your wonderful Creator.

  2. Fola

    I find it very difficult to surrender although I see God’s hand in my life. I grew up in an emotionally abusive home and then married an emotionally and physically abusive husband. I basically lived in survival mode the majority of my life. I believe the trauma I have experienced makes it very difficult to submit. There is an overwhelming fear and anxiety attached to this submission that has become a stronghold. May God help me!

    1. Dear Fola, I am so sorry you’ve lived with so much abuse and I understand why you have a hard time being submissive. I believe the biggest key for you to understand is that GOD IS NOT LIKE your father or husband. He is good, loving, and kind. He understands you–every part of you–and will help you submit to His way which is FAR FAR better than your way.
      You are NOT surrendering to a bunch of rules and regulations or to a mean selfish God.

      Here are 2 resources that may help you:
      Blog- 5 Reasons Why God’s Way Is Best
      Book: On My Father’s Lap (in the store) this comes in pdf, audiobook or from amazon. If you contact me directly I will give you a 25% off coupon on any digital product bought in our store.

  3. lois

    I have a hard time submitting because of my pride. I crave and want control, but I am just so disappointed in myself for screwing so many things up. I need God’s help, and yet when I ask, my prayer doesn’t seem genuine. I can’t even talk to Him because I am too far now.

    1. Dearest Lois

      May I say to you right off that that is not true—that you cannot even talk to God because you are too far now! There is no sin or number of sins that God won’t forgive.

      The Lord is compassionate and merciful,
      slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
      He will not constantly accuse us,
      nor remain angry forever.
      He does not punish us for all our sins;
      he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve.
      For his unfailing love toward those who fear him
      is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
      He has removed our sins as far from us
      as the east is from the west.
      The Lord is like a father to his children,
      tender and compassionate to those who fear him.
      For he knows how weak we are;
      he remembers we are only dust. (Ps 103:8-14 NLT)

      So let me ask you first: Have you received Jesus Christ as your personal Savior? Are you believing in Christ alone or are you trying to earn your way into heaven?
      If you have, then rest in the knowledge that Jesus paid for them—all of them. Accept His gift of forgiveness. You do not need to live in guilt.

      There is therefore now NO CONDEMNATION for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Rom 8:1)

      God is not looking for you to be perfect. You will still sin after you are saved. However, God wants you to have a heart to live for Him. The good news is that as a new creature in Christ, He is indwelling you and have the power to say no to temptation. And when you fail—there’s forgiveness. Repent and be cleansed.

      If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1Jn 1:9)

      I hope that helps. Please feel free to contact me again. Meanwhile here are a few blogs and resources to help you. I hope you will consider subscribing to receive my weekly blog. I believe that it will help you. If you opt in to get the Precious in His Sight e-book, you will be subscribed to it.

      Ahhhhhhhhh! Getting Relief from the Burden of GUILT
      How to Say Goodbye to Regrets: 10 Tips
      Precious in His Sight e-Book (free)

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