Control Your Emotions Quotes: True or False—or Nonsense?

Are you searching for “control your emotions” quotes?

There are many quotes out there on how to control your emotions. Some are true, many are false, and some simply make no sense whatsoever! We must be very careful what we accept as truth; what we allow to penetrate deep into our psyche. Because as the Bible says:

For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. (Pr 7:23 NKJV)

Actions always follow what we truly believe. We act on what we believe is true.

Below are some FALSE controlling your emotions quotes with the truths to help you counter them.

LIE: “Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.” ~Roger Ebert

TRUTH: Feelings often cloud our judgement. 


LIE: “Memory is always faulty. Emotions are always true.” ~Author Unknown

TRUTH: Memory is faulty; our feelings may be real but they are not always based on reality.

“We have trained ourselves to think that what we feel is real, but many times our feelings have no connection with reality.” Nancy L. DeMoss Wolgemuth


LIE: “The feeling is often the deeper truth, the opinion the more superficial one.” ~Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare, Guesses at Truth, by Two Brothers, 1827

TRUTH: The only deeper truth is found in Scripture. Nancy’s quote from above applies here as well. 


LIE:  “I can’t help it! the devil made me do it.” ~Author Unknown

TRUTH: Yes, you can help it. We don’t have to sin—that is if you are alive in Christ and dead to sin!

So you also should consider yourselves to be dead to the power of sin and alive to God through Christ Jesus. (Rom 6:11 NLT)

The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. (1 Cor 10:13 NLT)

See these blogs for more help:


LIE:  Why do I sometimes let my emotions get the better of me? For the same reason I let it rain last Tuesday. ~Robert Brault,, 2018

TRUTH: This quote implies that we have no choice whatsoever in letting our emotions overcome us, but we do! Neither do any of us have control over the weather—that’s God’s department. We do not have to be ruled by our emotions. What we need is God’s power not to give into them! Take it from this emotional yo-yo we do not have to give in! See these blogs to help you.

I’ll Always Be an Emotional YO-YO and How I Deal with It
Help For Us Emotional Yoyos: 7 Keys to Effectively Manage Your Emotions

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. (2 Pet 1:3)


LIE: Yes, that’s the worst of it. It’s a desperately vexatious thing that, after all one’s reflections and quiet determinations, we should be ruled by moods that one can’t calculate on beforehand. ~George Eliot, Adam Bede

TRUTH: While it is true that we cannot always predict our moods, we can see patterns if we look for them closely; if we self-evaluate. For example, if you are discouraged for no apparent reason—think about what has occurred over the last 24 hrs: a series of trials, lack of sleep, hungry, coming off an Adrenalin high. You may discover the reason and then be able to deal with it better. 

If you know that you get stressed out or angry every time you have to deal with a particular person or situation, you can put a guard up before you go into it; you could ask God for His help. You may still get stressed out, but it’ll be to a lesser degree enabling you to respond instead of react.


LIE: “Follow your heart.” ~Author Unknown

TRUTH: Love is often blind, i.e. human love. How many people do you know (maybe even yourself) who married someone because of “love,” only to find out later they had made a terrible mistake?

The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?  “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind….” (Jer 17:9-10)


LIE: I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay. ~Iyanla Vanzant

TRUTH: Feeling are not to be denied, but dealt with properly, i.e. God’s way. You will not automatically be ok. It’ll depend upon how you respond.


LIE: “Venting is good for you.” ~Author Unknown

TRUTH: This theory has long been discredited. “People who vent are angrier and more aggressive not just against people they know or love, but even against total strangers,” Bushman warns.

Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back. (Pr 29:11 NLT)


LIE: “When you control your thoughts and emotions, you control everything.” ~Marshall Sylver

TRUTH: The lie here is very subtle. God is the one who is in control of everything.

Yes, we do need to control our thoughts and emotions; we do have a choice in the matter. However, we NEED God’s help to renew our minds and manage our emotions (Rom 12:2). All of who we are, including our mind and emotions, must be placed under God’s control not our own. Otherwise, we will fail! At least, I certainly have without Him.

And even if we were able to control our thoughts and emotions, there’s still a lot that is out of our control—other people, weather, circumstances.


LIE: “If the ocean can calm itself so can you. We are both salt water mixed with air.” ~Author Unknown

TRUTH: This is pure nonsense! The ocean does not calm itself, God does! (Mat 8:23-27)


LIE: “You cannot live by feelings and emotions; you have to live by your intuition and consciousness.” ~H.S. yogi

TRUTH: We must live by the truth of God. Intuition and consciousness can change and feelings stem from the. Feelings change, God’s Word does not. 

…Your Word is truth. (Jn 17:17)

 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. (Jn 8:32) 


PARTIAL LIE: “Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. It’s a sign that you have a big heart, and that you aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.” ~Brigette Nicole

TRUTH: This is both true and false. It depends on how you express your feelings.

Emotions expressed uncontrollably can really hurt people. Suppressed emotions are not good either for they will show up in other ways in our lives—like depression, bitterness, or despair.

We are not deny or suppress our feelings, we are to deal with them in a godly fashion. Read the Psalms and see for yourself how voicing our feelings (the good, the bad and the ugly) to the Lord is balm for your soul.

These blogs will help you in this area:

How to ACTUALLY Deal with Pain: Part 1
5 Steps in How to Actually Deal with Pain
Minimizing our Pain/Maximizing its Benefits: Part 1


LIE: “Emotions have taught mankind to reason.” ~Author Unknown

TRUTH: Emotions are not rational. They are only responders. Feelings follow our thoughts. They do not teach us how to think. This is another nonsense one.


The point of all this is just to encourage you to use wisdom and discernment. The father of lies (Satan) is out there trying to deceive you. He takes truth and distorts it so that it sounds right. He tries to make you think, “Yes, that makes sense.”

Whether it’s a book, a message on TV, a sermon in church, or a quote listen intently and with spiritual ears. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you here, because He is the One who can lead you into all truth. Our hearts often want to hear what we want to hear; to tickle our ears in order that we may feel good. We must be extremely careful especially in this day and age!

My suggestion is that you don’t put too much stock on any man-made quote; don’t ponder it too deeply. Rather reserve your brain power to meditate on what you know to be absolutely true—God’s unfailing Word!

The law of the LORD is perfect,
reviving the soul.
The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy,
making wise the simple.
The precepts of the LORD are right,
giving joy to the heart.
The commands of the LORD are radiant,
giving light to the eyes.
The fear of the LORD is pure,
enduring forever.
The ordinances of the LORD are sure
and altogether righteous.
They are more precious than gold,
than much pure gold;
they are sweeter than honey,
than honey from the comb.
By them is your servant warned;
in keeping them there is great reward. 

Who can discern his errors?
Forgive my hidden faults.
Keep your servant also from willful sins;
may they not rule over me.
Then will I be blameless,
innocent of great transgression.

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight,
O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. (Ps 19:7-14, emphasis added)

If you feel unable to control your emotions go to the links below for additional help: 
Scriptures on Managing Emotions
How to Control Your Emotions God’s Way
Attend a Workshop on Managing Emotions

“Without the aid of trained emotions the intellect is powerless against the animal organism.” ~C.S. Lewis 


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